Emigration - adjusting to a new culture

Moving to another country is more than just a change of scenery. Leaving your familiar surroundings not only encounters a new language, different rules of conduct, and unfamiliar routines, but also sees yourself in a new light. Adapting to a foreign culture can be enriching, but also psychologically challenging.

Many expats initially experience a phase of euphoria: everything is exciting, new, and thrilling. But after a few weeks or months, this "honeymoon" is over, and disillusionment can set in. Suddenly, you notice that seemingly simple things—small talk, dealing with bureaucratic authorities, or the way proximity and distance are structured—trigger great uncertainty. This emotional rollercoaster is a normal part of what is known as "culture shock." During this phase, it is very helpful to seek out conversations with people who have had similar experiences.

A new culture also challenges our identity. Questions like "Who am I here?" or "How much of my heritage do I want to preserve?" arise. Many expats are confronted with national stereotypes. Some people feel uprooted or like they're living between two worlds without fully belonging. At the same time, this situation also presents an opportunity to reshape and expand their own identity.

Building social contacts in a new culture is often difficult and takes time. Differences in language, humor, or manners can lead to misunderstandings. Some emigrants feel isolated, even though they're surrounded by people. Furthermore, emigration changes old contacts at home. Many distance themselves from their families of origin and feel cut off from old friends. Loneliness is therefore a common companion – and should not be underestimated, as it can have a long-term negative impact on mental well-being and trigger adjustment disorders. Relief fantasies about returning home can arise.

Virpi Kinnunen is a psychotherapist, who has taken the step of moving abroad several times herself. She knows from her personal experience that adjustment takes time, patience, and often grief work. Saying goodbye to the old and arriving in the new go hand in hand. In my practice, she helps people better understand these processes and find their own way between cultures – with more ease, self-acceptance, and confidence.